Friday, November 9, 2012

Where are your manners?


 بـسـم الله والحـمـد لله والـصلاة والـسـلام عــلى رسـول الله، وبـعـد

Where are your manners O brothers and sisters when you discuss or debate with your own brothers and sisters? Subhaan-Allaah! It is amazing to see that even on the subject of Islaam when people differ, some of them start using indecent language and trying to abase each other, going totally out of character – all the while talking in the name of Islaam.

Even when talking about the innovators and deviants we have to maintain our character and not to exceed the limits.

Allaah تعالى says:

{وَلَا تُجَادِلُوا أَهْلَ الْكِتَابِ إِلَّا بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ}

{And argue not with the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians), unless it be in (a way) that is better (with good words and in good manner, inviting them to Islamic Monotheism with His Verses)} [Surah al-`Ankaboot (29): 46]

If the people of the Book deserve our good manners, then our Muslim and sisters brothers deserve the most. 

Did not the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم say: “No doubt! Your blood, your properties, and your honor are sacred to one another”? [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (67)]

But the rights of Allaah are more important to be defended than the rights of the creation!

6 comments:

  1. Salam alaikum wa rahmatAllah wa barakatuhu,

    Na'am, so true! But at the same time, what are kind polite words when they are empty and shallow? I have noticed that many Muslims seem to think that good manners are only polite words, but they do not care much about the meaning of the words, they do not use those polite words, to help, to guide, to answer, to back up etc. That I find impolite too!

    Salam alaikum wa rahmatAllah wa barakatuhu

    Nuha

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  2. It is reported that Abû Bakr Al-Matû’î said:

    I sat in the circle of Abû ‘Abdillâh Ahmad b. Hanbal for twelve years while he read the Musnad to his children, and I never wrote a single hadîth, I only looked at his behavior, character and etiquette.

    Ibn Al-Jawzî, Manâqib Ahmad, article 210.

    It is reported that Al-Hasan b. Ismâ’îl said, ‘I heard my father say:

    There would gather in the circle of Ahmad five thousand people or more; less than five hundred would write, the rest would learn from him good manners and behavior.’

    Ibid.

    It is reported that Sufyân Al-Thawrî said:

    A man who wanted to write hadîth would [learn] manners and worship for twenty years before starting.

    Abû Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyâ`, 6:361.

    It is reported that Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – used to say:

    Whoever does not think that his speech is part of his deeds and that his character is part of his religion will be destroyed without even realizing.

    Ibn Abî Al-Dunyâ Dham Al-Kadhib wa Ahlî article 94.

    may allah make us among those people who are best in character

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  3. Concerning the Imaam, the Shaykh - 'Abdul-'Azeez ibn Baaz (rahima-hullaah), ‘Abdur-Rahmaan ibn Muhammad al-Baddaah narrates:

    “It was narrated that the Shaykh (Ibn Baaz) differed (in opinion) with one of the Shaykhs from outside Saudi Arabia regarding a few issues.

    It then occurred that this (non-Saudi) Shaykh came to Saudi Arabia and the Shaykh (Ibn Baaz) invited him for lunch to his house and honoured him. Amongst the gathering were some students, who (turned and) said to the Shaykh (Ibn Baaz):

    “This is so-and-so who said such-and-such about you”, (at which) the Shaykh (Ibn Baaz) silenced them.

    He (then) continued to honour his guest, and at the end of the gathering, the Shaykh (Ibn Baaz) escorted him to the (front) door to bid him farewell. (It was) then the (non-Saudi) Shaykh said:

    “If it was said to me that there is someone on the face of this earth who is from the pious predecessors, certainly I would have said it is this man (i.e. Shaykh Ibn Baaz)”, rahimahumullaah.”

    Mawaaqif madhee.ah fee hayaat al-Imaam 'Abdul-'Azeez Ibn Baaz - Page 188
    taken from
    http://www.fatwa-online.com/jewelsofguidance/ibnbaaz/0030623.htm

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  4. Salaam walaikum. JazakAllah Khair

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